One of the toughest lessons I've learned in my life is that you can't control your emotions... no matter how hard you try. Yes you can control your actions and reactions when experiencing certain emotions, but controlling the actual emotion is impossible.
We are all human and we all go through times of very strong emotions. For instance, I typically don't cry. Something really serious has to happen in order for me to shed a tear. I used to cry more often when I was younger. For some reason over the years I convinced myself that crying somehow equals weakness. Although I know that it isn't true. I guess I just feel like I don't have control over myself when I cry.
I've tried to makes myself feel certain things like if I'm sad I'll just try to make myself happy. But that isn't necessarily changing or controlling my emotions, it's more like processing the emotions quickly. Earlier today I was thinking about when my son was a baby. For some reason that almost always brings tears to my eyes. I think that it is the idea of loss. The person he was is gone. He will never be like that again. That makes me sad. I miss his cute little cheeks and the way he mispronounced words. Although I know that he will never be like that again, it makes me happy to know that he is a great young man. He's smart, funny and considerate. I'm proud of who he is today. And what's more, I can have real conversations and sometimes debates with him.
So the lesson here is that you can't change your emotions but you can shift your focus so that the emotion you experience is a more pleasant one. Thanks for reading! Leave a comment if you like!